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“I’m a behavioral therapist and a mom…and I can help you fix your child’s behavior.”

“I know what it’s like when the child that you love becomes a defiant, out-of-control child who disrespects you.

That’s why my husband James and I created The Total Transformation, the program that tens of thousands of families are now using to turn around their child’s behavior.

If you’ve heard about The Total Transformation, and wondered if it would work for you, now’s your chance to try it for free.”

—Janet Lehman, MSW
   Child Behavior Therapist
   Co-creator of The Total Transformation Program

Janet Lehman, MSW

Say Goodbye to Disrespectful, Obnoxious and Abusive Behavior, and Regain Control of Your Child, Your Family & Your Life.

A Parent’s Program for Managing Challenging Behaviors in Children

Are you struggling with a child who is disrespectful, obnoxious, or even abusive toward you? Are you frustrated and exhausted from arguing constantly? Do you find yourself "walking on eggshells" around your child, trying to avoid saying something that will set him or her off? Have you tried talking, screaming, punishing, pleading, and negotiating—but your child still walks all over you?

All children behave badly from time to time. But when defiance, hostility and refusal to comply are ongoing, the behavior affects the entire family and requires a more serious intervention. Fortunately, we've seen that when parents use the right tools, they can change their child’s problem behavior—quickly and dramatically.

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We Know the Frustration, Fear, Isolation,
and Exhaustion You are Feeling as a Parent

We know the frustration, fear, isolation and exhaustion you’re feeling as a parent because we’ve worked with hundreds of parents just like you.

Parents of kids with behavior problems feel like they’re trapped in little prisons with no way out.

And no matter how hard they try, they can’t escape the endless arguments and ceaseless hostility from their child.

No one knows a defiant child better than someone who behaved the same way as a kid. That’s why The Total Transformation® Program can teach you how to turn your child’s behavior around—now.

They Say Your Child "Needs Structure.”
But How? We’ll Show You How

If you are parenting a difficult child, you’ve heard this statement a thousand times: "This child needs structure."

But what is that exactly? And how do you put it in place in your home?

This is precisely where The Total Transformation® can change your life.

This powerful program will teach you simple, step–by–step techniques you can use to put structures in place that will help your child solve his or her problems without resorting to bullying, conflict, and abusive behavior.

Here’s a look at some of the things you’ll learn:
  • How to Stop Arguing With Your Child
    This is a powerful technique parents love because it pulls the plug on any argument with your child. You’ll be stunned at how quickly it works—even if your teenage son is 6’2" tall and you’re just 5’4"!
  • The 10 Words to Say When He Gets Mouthy
    The technique that puts the brakes on "back talk" and cursing immediately… no matter how nasty your child gets.
  • How to Eliminate "Acting Out" in Public
    If your son or daughter acts out even more when his or her friends are around, this strategy is something you need to know!
  • Stopping the "Blame Game"—For GOOD
    We’ll give you a word–by–word script to use with your child to get him to take responsibility for his own behavior and stop blaming you and others.
  • Consequences 101
    How to give them, which ones work and which ones don’t, including specific consequences for kids in all age groups.
  • Preventing Future Issues—Before They Even Start!
    Instead of talking back, screaming or blaming you, your child will now have a way to solve his problems that gets him better results and better reactions from teachers and other adults.

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What’s the Secret? It’s Not About Self–Esteem…
It’s About Problem Solving

Like many parents of kids who act out, you may have been in family therapy with your child.

And you’ve probably come out wondering why it’s still so difficult to get your child’s behavior to change, especially after you’ve spent all that time and money!

The problem here is simple…

Traditional counseling and therapy focus on getting a child to talk about his "feelings" and building his self–esteem to change his behavior.

There’s a better way. Parents need tools they can use at home once the child comes out of that office and faces day–to–day, real–world challenges.

The bottom line is that behaviorally troubled kids lack the skills to solve the problems they encounter every day—and this is precisely what The Total Transformation® gives you!

You’ll Know Precisely What to Do and What to Say to Your Child
in the Moment to Put the Brakes on Bad Behavior

The Total Transformation® teaches you how to give your child more effective ways to solve his problems than fighting, screaming, annoying and defiance.

Your son or daughter will learn a simple system that will enable him or her to handle problems appropriately, without acting out. The Total Transformation® is a system that gets your child…and you…better results.

The Total Transformation® was created for parents like you who need help in the moment with kids who overwhelm them with defiance and bad behavior.

The reaction to this program by parents has been overwhelming! See for yourself:


My 8–year–old son was diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder and ADHD. He was stealing, lying and had temper tantrums when he didn’t get his own way. You have really turned my kid around. Within the first month we noticed a major change.* All of a sudden, there was this total transformation. He realized this behavior wasn’t worth it anymore. Now he pretty much has a good day every day. He does his work. He gets full privileges at home. I encourage other parents to try it because it really does work.

Shawna P.
Calgary, Alberta Canada

*Individual results will vary.


My grandson is 15 years old. He is extremely argumentative. He just won’t stop arguing. He’s obsessive about it. We’ve learned verbiage from The Total Transformation® Program that you can say and it’s almost like magic. If you say those words, they stop arguing! Thanks so much to all of you and especially to James Lehman. I hope this program brings success to millions of families.

Pat H.
Marietta, GA

We’ve seen these techniques work time and time again with even the most troubled children, and we are absolutely confident that this step–by–step program can bring success to your family, too.

You absolutely CAN change your child’s behavior and improve your life as a parent quickly. To prove it, we’re giving away a thousand of James Lehman’s best–selling Total Transformation Programs—for FREE.

All you need to do is tell us how the program works for you and your family. Did it turn your child’s behavior around? Did the screaming and arguing stop in your home?

Just order the program, use it with your child, then complete the Feedback Survey. We’ll refund the purchase price of the program. You keep The Total Transformation® Program forever…for Free.

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James Lehman understood what makes defiant kids tick because he had severe behavior problems as a kid.

The techniques you’ll find inside The Total Transformation® Program are precisely what turned him around. They’re the tools he used for 30 years to get kids to listen, behave and act responsibly at home and at school.

You don’t need a psychology degree to use The Total Transformation®. This is a straight–talk, plain English program for parents. There’s no psychobabble or highbrow theory.

We’ll teach you exactly what to say and do to stop the arguments and get through to your child, no matter how resistant he is to you. No matter how difficult the behavior has become at home and at school.

The Total Transformation® is not a substitute for medication or professional care, or a cure for any disorder or condition. Never discontinue a child’s medication without consulting a qualified professional.

The Total Transformation® is a program for you—the parent—to give you the knowledge and tools you need to be more effective in parenting a defiant child. It gives you parenting techniques that, until now, were difficult, if not impossible to find.

Parents Say They’d Tried Everything—Pleading, Negotiating,
Yelling, Even Therapy and NOTHING Had Worked…Until This

Parents who use The Total Transformation® say they’ve tried everything—pleading, negotiating, screaming, even therapy—and nothing had worked.

The one thing they hadn’t tried was The Total Transformation®… and, finally, the defiance stopped.


Our son always had a hard time with authority, especially our authority. The results from using the Total Transformation® Program are the arguments have almost ceased. They are down 90%. It’s made a happier home. For the first time we have control. Now we know how to end those arguments. We get to them before they even start.

Dede M.
Missouri City, TX


What we were experiencing was defiance, obnoxious and disrespectful behavior in dealing with parents. Extreme fighting between the two kids. To the point where it was physical. Really severe threats, beating each other up, hurting each other. We’ve only had The Total Transformation® for about three weeks but already we feel more relaxed because we feel like we’ve got something that’s working. And the kids are starting to respond. I’m feeling better, my husband’s feeling better and I think my kids are starting to feel that we’re turning around in our house.

Debra K.
Glen Burnie, MD


After The Total Transformation®, my son and I want to be around each other. Now when I ask him to do something he does it. There’s no more arguing, no more lecturing and no more back talking. I am totally shocked at the results. If it can do 25 percent of what it’s claiming, it will be a success, and it’s done 100% of what it’s claimed for me.

Ed M.
Chandler, AZ

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Say Goodbye to Arguing, Stress and Conflict and Restore Peace and Sanity into Your Home

A child with defiant, disrespectful behavior can turn your home into a war zone where there is no peace.

The Total Transformation® teaches you how to restore the peace and sanity in your home and stop the screaming and arguing.

In Day One of this step–by–step program, you’ll learn a whole new way to get your child to cooperate and comply, without having to raise your voice—ever.

• NO MORE getting sucked into pointless, never–ending arguments with your kid.
• NO MORE senseless power struggles with an 8–year–old or a 15–year–old.
• NO MORE negotiating and pleading to get your child to respond to simple requests.
• NO MORE feeling powerless and wrung out because nothing you say to your kid gets through.

Now, when you talk, your child will listen and respond appropriately.

Don’t Let Another Day Go By Being a Hostage in Your Own Home—Get Back in Control of Your Family Now!

Who’s really in charge at your home?

If you are trying to parent a defiant, out–of–control child, you know how their behavior affects everyone and everything in your home, from siblings to your relationship with your spouse.

It’s time to put you back in control of your home, and getting that control is simpler than you think.

The Total Transformation® will give you back the respect you deserve and the authority your children actually need from you.

The Best Way to See How it Works is to Try it For FREE—Click Here Now

Maybe you’re thinking, "You don’t know my kid." Maybe you think nothing could change your child’s behavior.

Well, we do know your child, and we want you to see how this program can transform your child’s behavior and your life as a parent.

That’s Why We’re Willing to Give You the Entire Program for FREE

The Total Transformation® Program has helped over 200,000 families and we really want to see what it can do for you too! That’s why, for a limited time, we’re willing to give you this program for FREE in exchange for your feedback.

When you order your program, you’ll pay 3 monthly payments of $109 each, plus $19 for shipping and handling ($25 to Canadian destinations). Then, if you complete the survey —within 180 days—you’ll get a full refund of the program price (excluding shipping). You’ll keep the program forever…for FREE.

Have you ever had a therapist give you an offer like that? We will, because we are so confident that the secrets you’ll find inside this program will turn your defiant child around and restore peace and sanity to your home!

So we urge you—give yourself the chance to rediscover the joys of being a parent again. Get in on this FREE Program Offer today and stop the bad behavior…for good.

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PS: If you don’t try this program, what will you do to change your child’s behavior? Are you hoping it will change on its own?

Bad behavior does NOT change without an intervention like the one we’re giving you here. Inside The Total Transformation®, we’ll give you all the tools you need to improve your child’s behavior. And you can use them all for FREE.

Plus… if you sign up for the FREE Program offer now, you’ll also receive a FREE Bonus CD: 10 Ways to Turn Around Your Child’s Attitude in One Minute or Less. So don’t delay!

Click here to get in on this FREE Offer now…

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Janet Lehman, MSW

"Before I met James, I was an angry person. I used to get out of control a lot. Almost every day after school, my sister and I would come home and fight and argue. There'd be verbal and physical abuse.
Now, me and my sister, we're like best friends. We talk. We don't fight and argue and call each other names. There's no more physical or verbal abuse. We just get along.
James Lehman has helped me in so many ways, my life is real strong and steady. There's no doubt, I'm on my way.”

—John M.

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Child Behavior Problems?

James Lehman believed that child behavior problems are not a “phase,” and that kids don’t “grow out of them.” The Total Transformation is a hands-on behavior modification parenting program that teaches you how to change your child’s thinking to change his behavior.


Recent Reviews of The Total Transformation Program

5 Rating
Review by : JaneHupp

Your program was invaluable in helping us guide our troubled teenager through her problems. I really wish we had had that information when our older children were growing!

5 Rating
Review by : Been There

Total Transformation cut through five frustrating years of diagnoses, medications, and behavior therapy. Our preteen daughter was diagnosed as bipolar, then ADD, then ODD, given a long list of medicines to try, but we never got a plan of how to actually help her at home. It seemed we only spent time in the psychologist's office discussing how difficult it was, but no plan of action. Total Transformation gave us action items, a plan, and support. We implemented consequences, discovered her real issue is with problem-solving, and we learned it is OK to abort a fight with our daughter! The change is slow but sure, and we no longer feel anxious about how to handle her outbursts and tantrums. Highly recommend this program to any parent who is feeling hopeless about their child's behavior!

5 Rating
Review by : Tracy Y.

The Total Transformation Program is simple, powerful and effective. We have been using it for 4 months and are delighted with the results. I hesitated at first, finally just did it and have been smiling since.

"The results from using The Total Transformation were almost immediate. Our home life has changed dramatically because of The Total Transformation.
Our counseling bills were—we were paying $75 a session and we were going once a week for about two and a half years. If you do the math, by comparison, The Total Transformation is a dramatic bargain."

—Geraldine L.

"Before using the Total Transformation program, there was no communication. The only communication was yelling and screaming and unkind words. After implementing the Total Transformation program, we can actually talk.
I think she’s hearing me a lot more now. Whereas before she was tuning me out. And I think that she’s able to hear me more because I’m screaming less.
And what was also a relief is that he wasn’t talking me down and saying you’re a bad mom because you’re screaming. You didn’t get any of that. It was none of that. He was just saying you know what it’s not effective, it’s not working. Let me give you something that’s going to work for you. And that was what was so phenomenal for me.”

—Gheri M.

"I got the package. And I think within 30 seconds of the opening, I said to myself this is one of the best investments I've ever made. The Total Transformation is result-oriented. No discussion. No lecturing. No explanation. Focus on the behavior. And it worked! That's what made me a believer. There was more value in the couple of hours of tapes that I bought from The Total Transformation, frankly, than ten thousand dollars worth of counseling or shrinks. If someone were to ask me what was the single adjective or the single description that would encapsulate my reward from working with The Total Transformation, I would say there's lots more peace in the house. And that is priceless."

—Mark L.