Finally…a simple, step-by-step way to fix your child's attitude,
defiance and out-of-control behavior—RIGHT NOW
Are you struggling with child attitude problems? Does your child have an “I don’t care” attitude about school, homework, chores or other responsibilities? Does he use an “adults don’t know anything” attitude to justify not following rules? Do you find yourself trying to fix your child’s attitude—and end up frustrated and angry when nothing changes? Are you worried that if he doesn’t take things seriously now, and continues down the road of apathy, defiance, and disrespect, that he’ll never make it in life?
All parents deal with child attitude problems from time to time. But if your child consistently “cops an attitude” with you and has ongoing issues with defiance, hostility, or disobedience, the behavior requires more serious interventions. Fortunately, we’ve seen that when parents use the right tools and the right approach, they can change their child’s attitude and behavior.
James and Janet Lehman: Practical Solutions to Child Behavior Problems from 30 Years of Hands–On Experience
tional, defiant behaviors as a child and teenager, and became a Behavioral Thera–
pist specializing in helping troubled children, teens and their families for 30 years.
A Lifetime of Experience with Child Attitude and
James Lehman had a very personal understanding of kids with bad attitudes and behavior problems because he was the same way as a child and teenager. For more than 30 years, he was a behavioral therapist, focusing on helping behaviorally-troubled children and teenagers turn around their attitudes and behavior and take responsibility for their actions.
We know the frustration, fear, isolation and exhaustion you’re feeling as a parent because we’ve worked with hundreds of parents just like you. Parents of kids with disrespectful or hostile attitudes feel like they’re trapped in little prisons with no way out. No matter how hard they try, they can’t seem to get their kids to “want” to have good grades or “want” to behave in a mature, responsible manner.
No one knows kids with behavior and attitude problems better than someone who acted the same way as a kid. That’s why I can teach you how to turn your child’s attitude around now with The Total Transformation® Program.
Focus on Changing Your Child’s Behavior, Not His Attitude
If you’re parenting a child with attitude problems, you’re probably giving speeches to your child about the importance of good grades, hard work, and respectful, responsible behavior. You’re probably trying to get him to look ahead and plan for his future.
But you’re setting yourself up for failure.
No matter how hard you try, you aren’t going change your child’s attitude by simply lecturing, or trying to convince him to see the world as you do. What you can do is change your child’s behavior and help him learn the skills he needs to make it in the world.
But how do you do this?
That's where The Total Transformation comes in. The program teaches you simple, step–by–step techniques for teaching your child the skills he needs to solve his problems and improve his behavior now.
- How to stop back talk and verbal abuse
If your child’s bad attitude turns into back talk or verbal abuse, learn what to do to shut it down and when. You don’t have to accept ugly, abusive talk from your child, and you can stop it, even if it feels like it’s gotten out of control.
- How to take control without yelling
When you scream at your child, you become his emotional equal. Don’t justify or over–explain when your child defies or ignores you. There’s a more effective way. I’ll show you exactly how to take control with fewer words and less emotion.
- How to motivate your child to behave
If your child can clearly see “what’s in it for him,” he’ll listen to you and do what you say. The secret is knowing the rewards and consequences that are meaningful to him. I’ll show you how to give them, which ones work and which ones don’t, with specific consequences for kids in all age groups.
- How to hold your child accountable for his actions
We ’ll give you a word–by–word script to use with your child to get him to take responsibility for his own behavior and stop blaming you and others.
- What to do the next time
Instead of “copping an attitude,” talking back, screaming or blaming you, your child will now have skills he can use to solve his problems and make it in the world.
The Secret: It’s Not About Self–Esteem.
It’s About Problem Solving
Like many parents of kids who act out, you may have been in family therapy with your child. And you've probably come out wondering why it's still so difficult to get your child's attitude and behavior to change, after you've spent all that time and money.
Here's why. Traditional counseling and therapy focus on getting a child to talk about his "feelings" and building his self-esteem to change his behavior.
I believe there's a better way. And, in my experience, parents need tools they can use at home once the child comes out of that office and faces day-to-day, real-world challenges.
Behaviorally-troubled kids lack the skills to solve the problems they encounter every day. The Total Transformation teaches you how to give your child more effective ways to solve his problems than fighting, screaming, annoying and defiance. He'll learn a simple system that will enable him to handle his problems appropriately and on his own, without acting out. A system that gets him…and you…better results.
We created The Total Transformation for parents like you, who need help in the moment with kids who overwhelm them with defiance and bad attitudes. The reaction to this program by parents has been overwhelming. Take a look.
OUR DAUGHTER’S GRADES IMPROVED DRAMATICALLY AND SHE HAS A BETTER ATTITUDE.
My wife and I were shocked with our 15–year–old daughter’s change in attitude and behavior. Her grades dropped, she was caught shoplifting, drinking, and cutting classes. She was lying to us and was completely disrespectful. I started using the Total Transformation techniques, and to my amazement, we got immediate results. Things at home are much better now. Our daughter’s grades improved dramatically and she has a better attitude. She shows us respect and complies with our wishes. What a change!Thrilled in NJ
MOST HELPFUL FOR TURNING AROUND OUR SON’S ‘DISRESPECTFUL’ AND ‘IT’S NOT FAIR’ ATTITUDE.
There is no questioning the fact that this program has been most helpful for getting our son to turn around his "disrespectful" and "it’s not fair" attitude. More importantly, this program has been beneficial to me, the Dad. I no longer feel that I have to rationalize situations with my son. Thanks for the wonderful program. We love it!!!Dr. Don.
WE ARE AMAZED AT THE IMPROVEMENT WE HAVE SEEN IN OUR SON IN JUST A FEW MONTHS.*
Our 16–year–old son can be verbally abusive and sometimes physically abusive to me (his dad). His attitude has improved tremendously using what we have learned so far. My wife was initially very skeptical of this program. Now she is a believer and we are amazed at the improvement we have seen in our son in just a few months.*Jim
*Individual results will vary.
We have seen the techniques work time and time again with even the most troubled kids, and we are 100% confident that this step–by–step program can bring success to your family, too.
You CAN change your child’s behavior and improve your life as a parent quickly. To prove it, we're giving away James Lehman's best–selling Total Transformation Programs—for FREE.
All you need to do is tell us how the program works for you and your family. Did it turn your child’s behavior around? Did the screaming and arguing stop in your home?
Just order the program, use it with your child, then complete and return the enclosed Feedback Survey. We’ll refund the purchase price of the program. You keep The Total Transformation Program forever…for FREE.
James Lehman understood what makes defiant kids tick because he had severe behavior problems as a kid. The techniques in The Total Transformation Program are what turned him around. They’re the tools he used for 30 years to get kids to listen, behave and act responsibly at home and at school.
You don’t need a psychology degree to use The Total Transformation. This is a straight–talk, plain English program for parents. There’s no psychobabble or high–brow theory. We’ll teach you exactly what to say and do to stop the arguments and get through to your kid, no matter how resistant he is to you. No matter how difficult the behavior has become at home and at school.
The Total Transformation is not a substitute for medication or professional care, or a cure for any disorder or condition. Never discontinue a child’s medication without consulting a qualified professional. The Total Transformation is a program for you—the parent—to give you the knowledge and tools you need to be more effective in parenting a defiant child. It gives you parenting techniques that, until now, were difficult, if not impossible, to find.
Parents who use The Total Transformation tell us they’d tried everything—pleading, negotiating, screaming, even therapy—and nothing had worked. The one thing they hadn’t tried was The Total Transformation…and, finally, the defiance stopped.
GREAT IMPROVEMENT IN OUR RELATIONSHIP AND HIS ATTITUDE TOWARDS SCHOOL.
When I ordered the Total Transformation series I was desperate for anything that would help me change my child’s attitude. It turned out that I learned more about how I needed to change my parenting than how to change him! The result has been a great improvement in our relationship and his attitude towards school. We still have a ways to go, but it has been a lifesaver and the cost is far less than any amount of counseling I could have done.Red Head
THANK YOU FOR SHOWING ME HOW TO DEAL WITH MY GRANDSON.
I am totally amazed by the results I have gotten so far. I can’t believe the changes I’ve seen in my grandson. It’s really good to have him around without the constant arguments and the attitude he had before. I no longer want to put him through the wall on a daily basis. Thank you so much for showing me the way to deal with him.Happy Grandmother
WE’VE NOTICED A TREMENDOUS IMPROVEMENT IN OUR SON’S ATTITUDE.
We have been using the Total Transformation program for a couple of months now* and noticed a tremendous improvement in our son’s attitude and response to us. The techniques are straight–forward and very effective. We have received comments from other family members who have also noticed the change. It has been a great investment for us.arupps
*Individual results will vary.
No Screaming. No Arguing. No Frustration
A child with a defiant, disrespectful attitude can turn your home into a war zone where there is no peace. The Total Transformation teaches you how to restore the peace and sanity in your home and stop the screaming and arguing.
On day one, you'll learn a whole new way to get your child to cooperate, without having to raise your voice. Ever. No more getting sucked into pointless, never-ending arguments with your kid. No more senseless power struggles with an 8-year-old or a 15-year-old. No more negotiating and pleading to get your child to respond to simple requests. No more feeling powerless and wrung out because nothing you say to your kid gets through. Now, when you talk, your child will listen and respond appropriately.
Get Back in Control of Your Family Now
Who’s really in charge at your home?
If you are trying to parent a defiant, out–of–control child, you know how their behavior affects everyone and everything in your home, from siblings to your relationship with your spouse.
It’s time to put you back in control of your home, and getting that control is simpler than you think.
The Total Transformation® will give you back the respect you deserve and the authority your children actually need from you.
Maybe you're thinking, “You don't know my kid.” Maybe you think nothing could change your child’s attitude or behavior. Well, we do know your kid, and we want you to see how this program can transform your child’s behavior and your life as a parent.
That's Why We're Willing to Give You
the Entire Program for FREE
The Total Transformation Program has helped over 200,000 families and we really want to see what it can do for you too! That’s why, for a limited time, we're willing to give you the program for FREE in exchange for your feedback.
When you order your program, you’ll pay 3 monthly payments of $109 each, plus $19 for shipping and handling ($25 to Canadian destinations). Then, if you complete and return the survey that’s enclosed with your program—within 180 days— you’ll get a full refund of the program price (excluding shipping). You’ll keep the program forever…for FREE.
Have you ever had a therapist give you an offer like that? We will. Because we know how to turn defiant kids around and can help you turn things around in your home. We want to give you the chance to enjoy being a parent again and rediscover your child.
Don’t lose any more sleep over your child’s behavior. Don’t spend another day living in fear of the next phone call from school—or worse.
Get in on the FREE Program Offer today and stop the bad behavior…for good.
If you don't try this program, what will you do to change your child's behavior? Are you hoping it will change on its own? We can tell you from 30 years of experience that it doesn't change without an intervention like the one we're giving you here. We'll give you all the tools you need to improve your child's behavior. And you can use them all for FREE.
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"Before I met James, I was an angry person. I used to get out of control a lot. Almost every day after school, my sister and I would come home and fight and argue. There'd be verbal and physical abuse.
Now, me and my sister, we're like best friends. We talk. We don't fight and argue and call each other names. There's no more physical or verbal abuse. We just get along.
James Lehman has helped me in so many ways, my life is real strong and steady. There's no doubt, I'm on my way.”
Recent Reviews of The Total Transformation Program
Review by : JaneHupp
Your program was invaluable in helping us guide our troubled teenager through her problems. I really wish we had had that information when our older children were growing!
Review by : Been There
Total Transformation cut through five frustrating years of diagnoses, medications, and behavior therapy. Our preteen daughter was diagnosed as bipolar, then ADD, then ODD, given a long list of medicines to try, but we never got a plan of how to actually help her at home. It seemed we only spent time in the psychologist's office discussing how difficult it was, but no plan of action. Total Transformation gave us action items, a plan, and support. We implemented consequences, discovered her real issue is with problem-solving, and we learned it is OK to abort a fight with our daughter! The change is slow but sure, and we no longer feel anxious about how to handle her outbursts and tantrums. Highly recommend this program to any parent who is feeling hopeless about their child's behavior!
Review by : Tracy Y.
The Total Transformation Program is simple, powerful and effective. We have been using it for 4 months and are delighted with the results. I hesitated at first, finally just did it and have been smiling since.
"The results from using The Total Transformation were almost immediate. Our home life has changed dramatically because of The Total Transformation.
Our counseling bills were—we were paying $75 a session and we were going once a week for about two and a half years. If you do the math, by comparison, The Total Transformation is a dramatic bargain."
"Before using the Total Transformation program, there was no communication. The only communication was yelling and screaming and unkind words. After implementing the Total Transformation program, we can actually talk.
I think she’s hearing me a lot more now. Whereas before she was tuning me out. And I think that she’s able to hear me more because I’m screaming less.
And what was also a relief is that he wasn’t talking me down and saying you’re a bad mom because you’re screaming. You didn’t get any of that. It was none of that. He was just saying you know what it’s not effective, it’s not working. Let me give you something that’s going to work for you. And that was what was so phenomenal for me.”
"I got the package. And I think within 30 seconds of the opening, I said to myself this is one of the best investments I've ever made. The Total Transformation is result-oriented. No discussion. No lecturing. No explanation. Focus on the behavior. And it worked! That's what made me a believer. There was more value in the couple of hours of tapes that I bought from The Total Transformation, frankly, than ten thousand dollars worth of counseling or shrinks. If someone were to ask me what was the single adjective or the single description that would encapsulate my reward from working with The Total Transformation, I would say there's lots more peace in the house. And that is priceless."