Finally…simple, step–by–step methods for transforming
the difficult child—RIGHT NOW

Are you struggling with a difficult child who is disrespectful, obnoxious or even abusive toward you? Are you frustrated and exhausted from arguing constantly? Do you "walk on eggshells" around your child, avoiding conflicts that will "set him off?" Have you tried screaming, punishing, pleading, and negotiating and your child still walks all over you?

All children are difficult from time to time. But when defiance, hostility and refusal to comply are ongoing, the behavior affects the entire family and requires more serious interventions. Fortunately, we've seen that when parents use the right tools, they can change difficult child behavior…quickly and dramatically.

James and Janet Lehman: Practical Solutions to Child Behavior Problems from 30 Years of Hands–On Experience

James Lehman, MSW Child Behavior Therapist
James Lehman had a very personal understanding of kids with behavior problems. He displayed severe opposi–
tional, defiant behaviors as a child and teenager, and became a Behavioral Thera–
pist specializing in helping troubled children, teens and their families for 30 years.
Janet Lehman, MSW Child Behavior Therapist
Janet Lehman has over three decades of clinical experience working with out–of–control children and teens and their parents. Working in group homes and residential treatment centers, Janet helped children with serious behavioral disorders learn to get their behavior under control.

The Total Transformation Programs

A Lifetime of Experience with Transforming the Difficult Child

James Lehman had a very personal understanding of kids with behavior problems because he displayed severe oppositional, defiant behaviors as a child and teenager. For more than 30 years, he was a behavioral therapist, focusing on helping behaviorally-troubled children and teenagers turn around their behavior and take responsibility for their actions.

We know the frustration, fear, isolation and exhaustion you're feeling as a parent because we've worked with hundreds of parents just like you. Parents who have a difficult child feel like they're trapped in little prisons with no way out. No matter how hard they try, they can't escape the endless arguments with and ceaseless hostility from their child.

No one knows a difficult child better than someone who behaved the same way as a kid. The Total Transformation Program can teach you how to turn your child's behavior around—now.

They Say He "Needs Structure." But How? We’ll Show You How

If you're parenting a difficult child, you've probably heard this statement a thousand times: "This child needs structure." But what does that "structure" look like and how do you put it in place in your home?

That's where The Total Transformation comes in.The program teaches you simple, step-by-step techniques for giving your child the structure he needs to solve his problems and improve his behavior now.


Here’s a look at some of the things you’ll learn:
  • How to get your parental authority back
    When your child defies you or gets abusive, you’ll learn exactly what to say and do to maintain your authority and get back in control.
  • How to stop arguing with your child
    This is a powerful technique parents love because it pulls the plug on any argument with your child. You'll be stunned at how quickly it works. Even if your teenage son is 6'2" tall and you're 5'4".
  • The 10 words to say when he gets mouthy
    The technique that stops back talk and cursing…no matter how nasty your child gets.
  • How to hold your child accountable
    We'll give you a word-by-word script to use with your child to get him to take responsibility for his own behavior and stop blaming you and others.
  • How to motivate your child to behave
    The secret to getting your child to behave isn’t punishment. We’ll show you how to motivate him to do what you say—the first time you ask. You’ll learn to use a simple system of rewards and consequences that are meaningful to him. Find out how to give them, which ones work and which ones don't, with specific consequences for kids in all age groups.
  • What to do the next time
    Instead of talking back, screaming or blaming you, your child will now have a way to solve his problems that gets him better results and better reactions from teachers and other adults.

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The Secret: It’s Not About Self–Esteem.
It’s About Problem Solving

Like many parents with a difficult child, you may have been in family therapy with your child. And you've probably come out wondering why it's still so difficult to get your child's behavior to change, after you've spent all that time and money.

Here's why. Traditional counseling and therapy focus on getting a child to talk about his "feelings" and building his self-esteem to change his behavior.

There's a better way. Parents need tools they can use at home once the child comes out of that office and faces day-to-day, real-world challenges.

Behaviorally-troubled kids lack the skills to solve the problems they encounter every day. The Total Transformation teaches you how to give your child more effective ways to solve his problems than fighting, screaming, annoying and defiance. He'll learn a simple system that will enable him to handle his problems appropriately and on his own, without acting out. A system that gets him…and you…better results.

We created The Total Transformation for parents like you, who need help in the moment with difficult kids who overwhelm them with defiance and bad behavior. The reaction to this program by parents has been overwhelming. Take a look.


My wife and I were spending far too much time and stress every day trying to get my son to do his homework and behave appropriately. Total Transformation gave us the problem–solving perspective for correcting our child’s behavior. The tools and techniques work and we now have a less stressful and happier home. Nobody chooses to have a difficult child. As parents with these challenges, we need the tools, techniques and the right perspective. This is what Total Transformation provides.

Jim W


The Total Transformation is not only a guide in how to deal with and correct problems with a difficult child, it also provides advice and instruction on how to be a parent. In today’s world where so much emphasis has been placed upon being a best friend to your child, it shines a light upon the more difficult challenge of being a parent. It brings to light the reality that parenting is about guiding, coaching, setting limits and goals. It’s about real life and teaching skills needed to deal with it. Well worth it.

*Individual results will vary.

We have seen the techniques work time and time again with even the most troubled kids, and are 100% confident that this step–by–step program can bring success to your family, too.

You CAN change your child’s behavior and improve your life as a parent. To help, we’re offering 40% off James Lehman’s best-selling Total Transformation Program — that’s a $132 discount!

Just pay $195 plus any applicable sales tax, and shipping is FREE. If for any reason you're not satisfied, return your program for a full refund with our 60-Day Money-Back Guarantee.

The Total Transformation Programs

James Lehman understood what makes a difficult child tick because he had severe behavior problems as a kid. The techniques in The Total Transformation Program are what turned him around. They're the tools he used for the 30 years to get kids to listen, behave and act responsibly at home and at school.

You don't need a psychology degree to use The Total Transformation. This is a straight-talk, plain English program for parents. There's no psychobabble or high-brow theory. We'll teach you exactly what to say and do to stop the arguments and get through to your kid, no matter how resistant he is to you. No matter how difficult the behavior has become at home and at school.

The Total Transformation is not a substitute for medication or professional care, or a cure for any disorder or condition. Never discontinue a child's medication without consulting a qualified professional. The Total Transformation is a program for you—the parent—to give you the knowledge and tools you need to be more effective in parenting a difficult child. It gives you parenting techniques that, until now, were difficult, if not impossible to find.

Parents who use The Total Transformation tell us they'd tried everything—pleading, negotiating, screaming, punishing, even therapy—and nothing had worked. The one thing they hadn't tried was The Total Transformation…and, finally, the defiance stopped.


EVERY parent should have this program just in case they end up experiencing a difficult child. Had we had the training and skills to parent our 17–year–old son the way he needed to be parented years ago, we wouldn’t have lost precious time ENJOYING being his mom and dad and ENJOYING him. We’ve been on the program for a couple of months now* and our house is calm. We are in control, not him. He is being respectful—the difference is night and day. We recommend The Total Transformation to every parent we know.

*Individual results will vary.


Michael, my oldest, has always been my challenge. Before I got the program, I had the fear and paralysis of not being able to parent this difficult child effectively. There were so many times I didn’t know what to say. There were so many times I feared his anger. Now I know what to say to let him know his behavior will not be accepted anymore. Before, I felt like I was swimming backwards. Now I’m swimming and I’m getting somewhere and I think he’s getting somewhere too. Thank you for giving me the power to change my child’s behavior and literally change his future.

Valerie D


We have a blended family and lacked the skills necessary to manage one very difficult teen. We both think this program is absolutely brilliant! What a difference it would have made in my life and my children’s if I could have implemented these techniques when they were small…being more consistent and less emotional with discipline. Thank you for giving us the support we needed to feel confident with our parenting, recognize our weaknesses, and give us a plan for improving!

Carl and Andrea S.

The Total Transformation Programs

No Screaming. No Arguing. No Frustration

A child with defiant, disrespectful behavior can turn your home into a war zone where there is no peace. The Total Transformation teaches you how to restore the peace and sanity in your home and stop the screaming and arguing.

On day one, you'll learn a whole new way to get your child to cooperate, without having to raise your voice. Ever. No more getting sucked into pointless, never-ending arguments with your kid. No more senseless power struggles with an 8-year-old or a 15-year-old. No more negotiating and pleading to get your child to respond to simple requests. No more feeling powerless and wrung out because nothing you say to your kid gets through. Now, when you talk, your child will listen and respond appropriately.

Get Back in Control of Your Family Now

Who's really in charge at your home? If you're dealing with a difficult child, you know how his behavior affects everyone and everything in your home, from siblings to your relationship with your spouse.

It's time to put you back in control of your home. Getting that control is simpler than you think. The Total Transformation will give you back the respect you deserve and the authority your children actually need from you.

The Best Way to See How it Works is to Try it — Click Here Now

Maybe you're thinking, “You don't know my kid.” Maybe you think nothing could change your child’s behavior. Well, we do know your kid, and we want you to see how this program can transform your child’s behavior and your life as a parent.

That’s Why We’re Willing to Give You 40% OFF the Entire Program

The Total Transformation Program has helped over 200,000 families and we really want to see what it can do for you too! That's why, for a limited time, we're willing to offer 40% off our program.

When you order your program, you'll pay 1 payment of $195, with FREE shipping and handling. If for any reason you're not satisfied, return your program for a full refund with our 60-Day Money-Back Guarantee.

Have you ever had a therapist give you an offer like that? We will, because we know how to turn defiant kids around and can help you turn things around in your home. We want to give you the chance to enjoy being a parent again and rediscover your child.

Don’t lose any more sleep over your child’s behavior. Don’t spend another day living in fear of the next phone call from school—or worse.

Get in on this Limited-Time Offer today and stop the bad behavior … for good.

The Total Transformation Programs

The Total Transformation Program is a simple step–by–step multi–media program that comes to you on DVD and CD with an interactive workbook. It makes learning the techniques remarkably easy. Your program includes: Jump Start DVD, Parent’s Workshop DVD with live question and answer session, 7 audio lessons on CD and a 118–page workbook.

If you don't try this program, what will you do to change your child's behavior? Are you hoping it will change on its own? We can tell you from 30 years of experience that it doesn't change without an intervention like the one we're giving you here.The Total Transformation will give you all the tools you need for parenting a difficult child.

Plus … if you get in on this exclusive offer now, you'll also receive a FREE Bonus CD: 10 Ways to Turn Around Your Child’s Attitude in One Minute or Less. So don’t delay! Click here to get 40% off your Program

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"Before I met James, I was an angry person. I used to get out of control a lot. Almost every day after school, my sister and I would come home and fight and argue. There'd be verbal and physical abuse.
Now, me and my sister, we're like best friends. We talk. We don't fight and argue and call each other names. There's no more physical or verbal abuse. We just get along.
James Lehman has helped me in so many ways, my life is real strong and steady. There's no doubt, I'm on my way.”

—John M.

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Child Behavior Problems?

James Lehman believed that child behavior problems are not a “phase,” and that kids don’t “grow out of them.” The Total Transformation is a hands-on behavior modification parenting program that teaches you how to change your child’s thinking to change his behavior.


Recent Reviews of The Total Transformation Program

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Review by : JaneHupp

Your program was invaluable in helping us guide our troubled teenager through her problems. I really wish we had had that information when our older children were growing!

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Review by : Been There

Total Transformation cut through five frustrating years of diagnoses, medications, and behavior therapy. Our preteen daughter was diagnosed as bipolar, then ADD, then ODD, given a long list of medicines to try, but we never got a plan of how to actually help her at home. It seemed we only spent time in the psychologist's office discussing how difficult it was, but no plan of action. Total Transformation gave us action items, a plan, and support. We implemented consequences, discovered her real issue is with problem-solving, and we learned it is OK to abort a fight with our daughter! The change is slow but sure, and we no longer feel anxious about how to handle her outbursts and tantrums. Highly recommend this program to any parent who is feeling hopeless about their child's behavior!

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Review by : Tracy Y.

The Total Transformation Program is simple, powerful and effective. We have been using it for 4 months and are delighted with the results. I hesitated at first, finally just did it and have been smiling since.

"The results from using The Total Transformation were almost immediate. Our home life has changed dramatically because of The Total Transformation.
Our counseling bills were—we were paying $75 a session and we were going once a week for about two and a half years. If you do the math, by comparison, The Total Transformation is a dramatic bargain."

—Geraldine L.

"Before using the Total Transformation program, there was no communication. The only communication was yelling and screaming and unkind words. After implementing the Total Transformation program, we can actually talk.
I think she’s hearing me a lot more now. Whereas before she was tuning me out. And I think that she’s able to hear me more because I’m screaming less.
And what was also a relief is that he wasn’t talking me down and saying you’re a bad mom because you’re screaming. You didn’t get any of that. It was none of that. He was just saying you know what it’s not effective, it’s not working. Let me give you something that’s going to work for you. And that was what was so phenomenal for me.”

—Gheri M.

"I got the package. And I think within 30 seconds of the opening, I said to myself this is one of the best investments I've ever made. The Total Transformation is result-oriented. No discussion. No lecturing. No explanation. Focus on the behavior. And it worked! That's what made me a believer. There was more value in the couple of hours of tapes that I bought from The Total Transformation, frankly, than ten thousand dollars worth of counseling or shrinks. If someone were to ask me what was the single adjective or the single description that would encapsulate my reward from working with The Total Transformation, I would say there's lots more peace in the house. And that is priceless."

—Mark L.