Finally…a simple, step–by–step way to get your kids to listen
and behave responsibly—RIGHT NOW
Are you struggling with a child who doesn’t listen and thinks he can do whatever he wants? Does he disrespect you and refuse to accept your authority and rules? Do you find yourself in a constant power struggle with him? Do you hear “Screw you” or “Back off” when you ask him to do something he doesn’t want to do? Have you tried screaming, punishing, pleading, and negotiating, but nothing you say or do gets through to him?
All children behave badly from time to time. But when defiance, hostility and refusal to listen and comply are ongoing, the behavior affects the entire family and requires more serious interventions. Fortunately, we've seen that when parents use the right tools, they can restore their parental authority and get their kids to listen and respond to them right away.
James and Janet Lehman: Practical Solutions to Child Behavior Problems from 30 Years of Hands–On Experience
tional, defiant behaviors as a child and teenager, and became a Behavioral Thera–
pist specializing in helping troubled children, teens and their families for 30 years.
A Lifetime of Experience with Child Behavior Problems
James Lehman had a very personal understanding of kids with behavior problems because he displayed severe oppositional, defiant behaviors as a child and teenager. For the past 30 years, we've been behavioral therapists, focusing on helping behaviorally-troubled children and teenagers turn around their behavior and take responsibility for their actions.
We know the frustration, fear, isolation and exhaustion you're feeling as a parent because we've worked with hundreds of parents just like you. Parents of kids with behavior problems feel like they're trapped in little prisons with no way out. No matter how hard they try, they can't escape the endless arguments with and ceaseless hostility from their child.
No one knows a defiant child better than someone who behaved the same way as a kid. The Total Transformation Program can teach you how to turn your child's behavior around—now.
They Say He "Needs Structure." But How? We’ll Show You How
If you're parenting a difficult child who doesn’t listen, you've probably heard this statement a thousand times: "This child needs structure." When kids have structure—when they know the rules and expectations—they’re far less likely to challenge you. But what does that "structure" look like and how do you put it in place in your home?
That's where The Total Transformation comes in. We'll teach you simple, step-by-step techniques for setting limits with your child and getting kids to listen. We’ll help you establish a system that makes your child responsible for listening to you and holds him accountable if he doesn’t.
- How to motivate your child to listen
The secret to getting your child to listen isn’t punishment. We’ll show you how to motivate him to do what you say—the first time you ask. You’ll learn to use a simple system of rewards and consequences that are meaningful to him. Find out how to give them, which ones work, and which ones don’t, with specific consequences for kids in all age groups.
- How to take control and put an end to power struggles
If your child resists you every time you try to establish rules and limits, we’ll show you how to stop the power struggle and get him to comply. It’s a remarkably simple way to take control of your home by using fewer words and less emotion.
- How to stop arguing with your child
This is a powerful technique parents love because it pulls the plug on any argument with your child. You’ll be stunned at how quickly it works. Even if your teenage son is 6’2" tall and you’re 5’4".
- How to hold your child accountable
We ’ll give you a word–by–word script to use with your child to get him to take responsibility for his own behavior and stop blaming you and others.
- What to do the next time
The next time you need your child to do something, you’ll know exactly what to say and do to get him to listen and cooperate with you. He’ll know you mean what you say and what will happen if he doesn’t comply.
The Secret: It’s Not About Self–Esteem.
It’s About Problem Solving
Like many parents of kids who act out, you may have been in family therapy with your child. And you've probably come out wondering why it's still so difficult to get your child's behavior to change, after you've spent all that time and money.
Here's why. Traditional counseling and therapy focus on getting a child to talk about his "feelings" and building his self-esteem to change his behavior.
There's a better way. Parents need tools they can use at home once the child comes out of that office and faces day-to-day, real-world challenges.
Behaviorally-troubled kids lack the skills to solve the problems they encounter every day. The Total Transformation teaches you how to give your child more effective ways to solve his problems than fighting, screaming, annoying and defiance. He'll learn a simple system that will enable him to handle his problems appropriately and on his own, without acting out. A system that gets him…and you…better results.
We created The Total Transformation for parents like you, who need help in the moment with kids who overwhelm them with defiance and bad behavior. The reaction to this program by parents has been overwhelming. Take a look.
SHE STARTED DOING HER HOMEWORK AND STOPPED HITTING ME IMMEDIATELY.
My daughter is ten years old. She wasn’t compliant with homework. She was hitting me, yelling at me. And she wasn’t listening to me when I would give her direction or ask something of her. Before The Total Transformation Program, I felt we were never going to get along, that I was going to struggle forever.
When I got The Total Transformation, I got results pretty fast. Within a couple of weeks, I was seeing a difference in my daughter*. She started doing her homework and stopped hitting me immediately. The Total Transformation really gave me a sense that I am in charge. This is definitely one of the best things I’ve ever done for my family.Greta M.
Santa Cruz, CA
*Individual results will vary.
I FOUND MY MYSELF ACTUALLY DOING WHAT MY MOM ASKED ME TO DO AND I WAS LIKE—WHOA, WHAT’S GOING ON HERE?
Before the Total Transformation, there was definitely conflict and lack of communication in our home. When there was communication, it was just yelling and screaming and throwing things.
Since my mom got the program, her communication has become more effective. I found myself actually doing what she asked me to do and I was like—"Whoa, what’s going on here?" It’s like a big 360. My brother used to step all over her no matter what she said. Now, he’s careful to not disrespect her, not to cross his boundaries. He’s careful how he words things, because he knows the consequences.
The Total Transformation has totally transformed who I am, who my mother is, and who my brother is: the way we speak to each other, the way we talk and act with each other. It’s just been so effective.Isa R. (age 16)
Staten Island, NY
We have seen the techniques work time and time again with even the most troubled kids, and are 100% confident that this step–by–step program can bring success to your family, too.
You CAN change your child’s behavior and improve your life as a parent quickly. To prove it, we're giving away James Lehman's best–selling Total Transformation Programs—for FREE.
All you need to do is tell us how the program works for you and your family. Did it turn your child’s behavior around? Did the screaming and arguing stop in your home?
Just order the program, use it with your child, then complete and return the enclosed Feedback Survey. We’ll refund the purchase price of the program. You keep The Total Transformation Program forever…for FREE.
James Lehman understood what makes defiant kids tick because he had severe behavior problems as a kid. The techniques in The Total Transformation Program are what turned him around. They're the tools he used for 30 years to get kids to listen, behave and act responsibly at home and at school.
You don't need a psychology degree to use The Total Transformation. This is a straight-talk, plain English program for parents. There's no psychobabble or high-brow theory. We’ll teach you step–by–step techniques for stopping the arguments and getting kids to listen, no matter how resistant they are. No matter how difficult the behavior has become at home and at school.
The Total Transformation is not a substitute for medication or professional care, or a cure for any disorder or condition. Never discontinue a child's medication without consulting a qualified professional. The Total Transformation is a program for you—the parent—to give you the knowledge and tools you need to be more effective in parenting a defiant child. It gives you parenting techniques that, until now, were difficult, if not impossible to find.
Parents who use The Total Transformation tell us they'd tried everything—pleading, negotiating, screaming, punishing, even therapy—and nothing had worked. The one thing they hadn't tried was The Total Transformation…and, finally, the defiance stopped.
NOW, I’M MORE IN CHARGE. WHAT I SAY GOES AND IT DOESN’T CHANGE.
Before, I needed to beg my children to do whatever it was that needed to be done, whether it was chores or homework. I felt I had to beg them to comply, to obey me, to respect me. And now, I don’t beg. What I say goes, and it doesn’t change. Since The Total Transformation Program, I’m more in charge. They know who’s in control.Glori R.
Staten Island, NY
SHE’S LISTENING MORE BECAUSE I’M SCREAMING LESS.
My older daughter’s behavior problems escalated in high school. She became hostile, angry, abusive—really out of control. She wouldn’t follow directions, wouldn’t communicate, wouldn’t listen, wouldn’t talk.
After implementing The Total Transformation Program, I think my daughter is hearing me a lot more, whereas before she was tuning me out. And I think she’s listening more because I’m screaming less. The program also helped her see that things can get better if she communicates better instead of acting out.Gheri M.
AFTER ONE MONTH, I SAW HUGE CHANGES IN MY SON.
My eleven–year–old son is very stubborn and strong–willed. He doesn’t listen; he just does what he wants. We would use punishments, but he wasn’t learning from any of it. There was a lot of yelling going on, thinking that yelling was going to make him listen more. It didn’t.
In one month after doing this program, I saw huge changes in my son, and even the teacher noticed.* It used to be chaos and distress all the time. Now, we don’t yell. It’s a very respectful environment. The kids know their responsibilities. They know what steps to take to solve their own problems. And they feel like they’re in control, all because I’m in control.Lisa L.
Gulf Breeze, FL
*Individual results will vary.
No Screaming. No Arguing. No Frustration
A child with defiant, disrespectful behavior can turn your home into a war zone where there is no peace. The Total Transformation teaches you how to restore the peace and sanity in your home and stop the screaming and arguing.
On day one, you'll learn a whole new way to get your child to cooperate, without having to raise your voice. Ever. No more getting sucked into pointless, never-ending arguments with your child. No more senseless power struggles with an 8-year-old or a 15-year-old. No more negotiating and pleading to get your child to respond to simple requests. No more feeling powerless and wrung out because nothing you say to your kid gets through. Now, when you talk, your child will listen and respond appropriately.
Get Back in Control of Your Family Now
Who's really in charge at your home? If you're trying to parent a defiant, out-of-control child, you know how their behavior affects everyone and everything in your home, from siblings to your relationship with your spouse.
It's time to put you back in control of your home. Getting that control is simpler than you think. The Total Transformation will give you back the respect you deserve and the authority your children actually need from you.
Maybe you're thinking, “You don't know my kid.” Maybe you think nothing could change your child’s behavior or get him to respect and listen to you. Well, we do know your kid, and we want you to see how this program can transform your child’s behavior and your life as a parent.
That’s Why We're Willing to Give You
the Entire Program for FREE
The Total Transformation Program has helped over 200,000 families and I really want to see what it can do for you too! That’s why, for a limited time, we're willing to give you the program for FREE in exchange for your feedback.
When you order your program, you’ll pay 3 monthly payments of $109 each, plus $19 for shipping and handling ($25 to Canadian destinations). Then, if you complete and return the survey that’s enclosed with your program—within 180 days— you’ll get a full refund of the program price (excluding shipping). You’ll keep the program forever…for FREE.
Have you ever had a therapist give you an offer like that? We will, because we know how to turn defiant kids around and can help you turn things around in your home. We want to give you the chance to enjoy being a parent again and rediscover your child.
Don’t lose any more sleep over your child’s behavior. Don’t spend another day living in fear of the next phone call from school—or worse.
Get in on the FREE Program Offer today and stop the bad behavior…for good.
If you don't try this program, what will you do to change your child's behavior? Are you hoping it will change on its own? We can tell you from 30 years of experience that it doesn't change without an intervention like the one we're giving you here. The Total Transformation give you all the tools you need to improve your child's behavior. And you can use them all for FREE.
Plus…if you sign up for the FREE Program offer now, you’ll also receive a FREE Bonus CD: 10 Ways to Turn Around Your Child’s Attitude in One Minute or Less. So don’t delay! Click here to get in on this FREE Offer now…
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"Before I met James, I was an angry person. I used to get out of control a lot. Almost every day after school, my sister and I would come home and fight and argue. There'd be verbal and physical abuse.
Now, me and my sister, we're like best friends. We talk. We don't fight and argue and call each other names. There's no more physical or verbal abuse. We just get along.
James Lehman has helped me in so many ways, my life is real strong and steady. There's no doubt, I'm on my way.”
Recent Reviews of The Total Transformation Program
Review by : JaneHupp
Your program was invaluable in helping us guide our troubled teenager through her problems. I really wish we had had that information when our older children were growing!
Review by : Been There
Total Transformation cut through five frustrating years of diagnoses, medications, and behavior therapy. Our preteen daughter was diagnosed as bipolar, then ADD, then ODD, given a long list of medicines to try, but we never got a plan of how to actually help her at home. It seemed we only spent time in the psychologist's office discussing how difficult it was, but no plan of action. Total Transformation gave us action items, a plan, and support. We implemented consequences, discovered her real issue is with problem-solving, and we learned it is OK to abort a fight with our daughter! The change is slow but sure, and we no longer feel anxious about how to handle her outbursts and tantrums. Highly recommend this program to any parent who is feeling hopeless about their child's behavior!
Review by : Tracy Y.
The Total Transformation Program is simple, powerful and effective. We have been using it for 4 months and are delighted with the results. I hesitated at first, finally just did it and have been smiling since.
"The results from using The Total Transformation were almost immediate. Our home life has changed dramatically because of The Total Transformation.
Our counseling bills were—we were paying $75 a session and we were going once a week for about two and a half years. If you do the math, by comparison, The Total Transformation is a dramatic bargain."
"Before using the Total Transformation program, there was no communication. The only communication was yelling and screaming and unkind words. After implementing the Total Transformation program, we can actually talk.
I think she’s hearing me a lot more now. Whereas before she was tuning me out. And I think that she’s able to hear me more because I’m screaming less.
And what was also a relief is that he wasn’t talking me down and saying you’re a bad mom because you’re screaming. You didn’t get any of that. It was none of that. He was just saying you know what it’s not effective, it’s not working. Let me give you something that’s going to work for you. And that was what was so phenomenal for me.”
"I got the package. And I think within 30 seconds of the opening, I said to myself this is one of the best investments I've ever made. The Total Transformation is result-oriented. No discussion. No lecturing. No explanation. Focus on the behavior. And it worked! That's what made me a believer. There was more value in the couple of hours of tapes that I bought from The Total Transformation, frankly, than ten thousand dollars worth of counseling or shrinks. If someone were to ask me what was the single adjective or the single description that would encapsulate my reward from working with The Total Transformation, I would say there's lots more peace in the house. And that is priceless."