Finally…a simple, step–by–step way to stop your teen’s
destructive, out–of–control behavior—RIGHT NOW
Are you struggling with a teenager who is angry, disruptive, defiant, or abusive toward you? Is he making bad choices and heading down a dangerous path? Has he been in trouble with the law? Is his behavior tearing your family apart? Are you at your wit’s end, desperately trying everything to get your child back on the right path, but the problem behaviors remain?
All teens behave badly from time to time. But when the problem behaviors are ongoing and become more severe, serious interventions are often required.
Many parents consider sending their troubled child to a military school, boot camp, or wilderness program—not out of choice, but because other options have failed and they see no other alternatives. Fortunately, we've seen that when parents use the right tools, they don’t need to send their teens away. They can help them learn skills that can end the destructive behavior…quickly and dramatically.
James and Janet Lehman: Practical Solutions to Child Behavior Problems from 30 Years of Hands–On Experience
tional, defiant behaviors as a child and teenager, and became a Behavioral Thera–
pist specializing in helping troubled children, teens and their families for 30 years.
A Lifetime of Experience with Seriously Troubled Teens
James Lehman had a very personal understanding of teens with serious behavior problems because he displayed destructive, delinquent behaviors as a teenager too. He quit school, left home, lived on the streets, and drifted into a life of substance abuse and crime. After more than 6 years in various jails and prisons, he participated in an accountability-focused treatment program that turned his life around. For more than 30 years, he was a behavioral therapist, focusing his work on helping behaviorally-troubled teenagers take responsibility for their actions and turn their behavior around.
We know the frustration, fear, isolation and exhaustion you're feeling as a parent because we've worked with hundreds of parents just like you. Parents with problem teens feel like they're trapped in little prisons with no way out. No matter how hard they try, they can't seem to stop their child’s problematic, out-of-control behaviors and get them back on the right path.
No one knows a troubled child better than someone who behaved the same way. The Total Transformation Program can teach you how to turn your child's behavior around—now.
They Say He "Needs Structure." But How? We’ll Show You How
If you're parenting a behaviorally-troubled teen, you've probably heard this statement a thousand times: “This child needs structure.” But what does that “structure” look like and how do you put it in place in your home?
That's where The Total Transformation comes in. We'll teach you simple, step-by-step techniques you can use at home to give your teenager the structure he needs to solve the problems that frustrate and anger him and trigger the bad behavior.
We'll give you a word-by-word script to use with your teen to get him to take responsibility for his own behavior and stop blaming you and others.
- Stop verbal abuse from your teen
When back talk turns into verbal abuse, learn what to do and when. You don’t have to accept ugly, abusive talk from your teen, and you can stop it, even if it feels like it’s gotten out of control.
How to give them, which ones work and which ones don't, with specific consequences for pre-teens and teenagers.
- How to stop arguing with your child
This is a powerful technique parents love because it pulls the plug on any argument with your child. You'll be stunned at how quickly it works. Even if your teenage son is 6'2” tall and you're 5'4”.
- The 10 words to say when he gets mouthy
The technique that stops back talk and cursing...no matter how nasty your teen gets.
- No more public outbursts
The surefire way to stop fighting and acting out in public. If your kid gets more defiant when he's with his friends, this is a must-have tool.
- What to do the next time
Instead of self-defeating actions such as blaming or abusing you, running away, drinking, or taking drugs, your child will now have a way to solve his problems that gets him better results and better reactions from teachers and other adults. These are the essential life skills your child will need to make it as an adult. We’ll show you how to teach them now…at home.
The Secret: It’s About Problem Solving
Like many parents of struggling teens, you’re probably desperate for a solution to your child’s behavior problems.You may have tried family therapy and have come out wondering why it's still so difficult to get your child’s behavior to change after you've spent all that time and money. Or, maybe you’ve tried sending your teen to a reform school or residential treatment program where he thrived within the artificial confines of the off-site program, but still couldn’t deal with the real world.
There’s a better way. Parents need at-home tools and techniques to help their teens face day-to-day, real world challenges.
The Total Transformation Program helps you teach your child more effective ways to solve his problems.You’ll learn a simple parenting system that will show you how to help your teen handle his problems appropriately and on his own, without acting out. A system that gets him…and you…better results.
We created The Total Transformation for parents like you, who need help in the moment with teenagers who overwhelm and bewilder them with out-of-control behavior. The reaction to this program by parents has been overwhelming. Take a look.
ALL WHO COUNSEL YOUTH AND CHILDREN SHOULD GO THROUGH THIS PROGRAM — IT’S THAT GOOD.
I have 5 boys. My youngest is 17 and we’ve gone through some tough times with him. He got involved with the wrong kids and into things like drugs and sex. He had a lot of anger, blamed other people for his problems, and was flunking school. We tried switching schools, counselors, medication…all types of things and nothing really helped. We didn’t know where to turn and looked at the options. If you put your kid in juvenile, it doesn’t help at all—all they do is send him to the courts and back on the streets more bitter and disillusioned than ever—and he’s also got a record. You hear about wilderness camps and boot camps and find out they want fifty and sixty thousand dollars—and no guarantee he’s going to come out of it straightened out. Then not only are you in the poor house, you haven’t changed anything with your kid.
I’m a pastor and look for the best I can find and this is the best by far. All who counsel youth and children should go through this program—it’s that good. If you implement the techniques, you’re giving your child an opportunity to turn around by facing up and being responsible for his behavior. James emphasizes that if you’re responsible for your actions, you’re going to come out of whatever mess you’re in. This is so key. It gives hope. Right now we have some hope. For parents who are hurting like we’ve been hurting, we want to encourage them to get the program and run with it.Pastor Rodney D.
THANK YOU FOR GIVING ME THE POWER TO CHANGE MY CHILD’S BEHAVIOR AND LITERALLY CHANGE HIS FUTURE.
Michael, my oldest, has always been my challenge. A year and a half ago, he started smoking pot and I started doing urine tests at home. When the test was positive, we’d ground him and it would be ok for a while, but as soon as we gave him his freedom back, he would start smoking pot again. It was a vicious cycle. We’ve done counseling with him, but we just felt like we were throwing money away.
We felt so helpless. Nothing was working. I was thinking about sending him away because I couldn’t deal with it anymore, but I felt that was the easy way out. I wanted to be able to deal with it. I’ve seen kids being sent away. The parents spend thirty thousand dollars for three months, the child gets put back in the same environment and there is no difference. The kid is back to square one.
When I got the Total Transformation Program, I finally felt empowered to do the right thing. The program changed our reaction and behavior towards him and this caused him to change.
Before I got this program, I had the fear and paralysis of not being able to parent this difficult child effectively. There were so many times I just didn’t even know what to say. There were so many times I feared his anger. This program has taken all that away because I know what to say to let him know it will not be accepted anymore. Before, I just felt like I was swimming backwards, swimming and not getting anywhere. Now, I’m swimming and I’m getting somewhere and I think he’s getting somewhere too. Thank you for giving me the power to change my child’s behavior and literally change his future.Valerie D.
Silver Springs, MD
THANKS DOES NOT SAY ENOUGH.
My husband and I had been to several counselors, including family counseling with our daughter. She had run away several times, stolen a vehicle from our home, lied, swore at us, spent time in a residential facility, and we still had no sense that we had any control, but that she set her own rules. This program was the instruction manual we were looking for. We always felt like we walked on egg shells to keep peace in our family, and that we had to lower our standards in order to keep that peace. The program helped us understand that we could not use the tools our parents had used, or even the ones that had worked for our older son. It showed us that we weren't bad parents, and that we weren't alone. The tools made sense, and did not make us feel like we had to have PhD's in child psychology. They were the tools we always wanted to employ, but now we had the confidence that we were doing the right thing. Our daughter recognized the change and the excuses, backtalk, and disrespect stopped. I wish we had done this earlier. The support line is very helpful. Thanks does not say enough.Iowa Parents
*Individual results will vary.
We have seen the techniques work time and time again with even the most troubled teens, and are 100% confident that this step-by-step program can bring success to your family, too.
You CAN change your child’s behavior and improve your life as a parent quickly. To prove it, we're giving away James Lehman's best-selling Total Transformation Programs—for FREE.
All you need to do is tell us how the program works for you and your family. Did it turn your child’s behavior around? Did the screaming and arguing stop in your home?
Just order the program, use it with your child, then complete and return the enclosed Feedback Survey. We’ll refund the purchase price of the program. You keep The Total Transformation Program forever…for FREE.
James Lehman understood what makes troubled kids tick because he had severe behavior problems as a kid. The techniques in The Total Transformation Program are what turned him around. They’re the tools he used for 30 years to get kids to listen, behave and act responsibly, and stop making bad choices.
You don't need a psychology degree to use The Total Transformation. This is a straight-talk, plain English program for parents. There's no psychobabble or high-brow theory. We'll teach you exactly what to say and do to stop the arguments and get through to your teenager, no matter how resistant he is to you. No matter how serious the behavior has become at home and at school.
The Total Transformation is not a substitute for medication or professional care, or a cure for any disorder or condition. Never discontinue a child's medication without consulting a qualified professional. The Total Transformation is a program for you—the parent—to give you the knowledge and tools you need to be more effective in parenting. It gives you parenting techniques that, until now, were difficult, if not impossible to find.
Parents who use The Total Transformation tell us they'd tried everything—pleading, negotiating, screaming, punishing, even therapy—and nothing had worked. The one thing they hadn't tried was The Total Transformation and, finally, the bad behavior stopped.
IT HAS REBUILT MY SELF–CONFIDENCE AS A PARENT.
My 17 year old has ADHD and has had numerous escapades and problems. A psychiatrist wasn’t helping and I just didn’t know how I was going to be able to bring this kid around. My self esteem and confidence in trying to raise my children properly was so depleted. I thought I was a complete and total failure. My dad bought The Total Transformation for me—that was a real gift. I love James Lehman’s style. He has a lot of wisdom and provides practical measures, not just some high falootin theory. In the short period of time we’ve had it, it has rebuilt my self-confidence as a parent and my kid has finally turned a corner. There is definitely hope. I wish I’d had it ten years earlier.Reverend Hal S.
I WAS REALLY AT MY WIT’S END.
I just want to thank James because I was really at my wit’s end. I was seriously thinking of having Brian placed in this Wyoming home for children that are uncontrollable and it was breaking my heart. I was in tears, I lost weight, I was a mess. When I got The Total Transformation Program, I cried because I thought, ‘I don’t have to do that. This is what I’ve needed.’Kathleen T.
WE WEREN’T BAD PARENTS, WE JUST WEREN’T TRAINED FOR DEALING WITH CHALLENGING CHILDREN.
Both of our kids have ADHD, bi-polar and depression issues. They were exhibiting extremely defiant, obnoxious and disrespectful behavior and were running the show. We were unbelievably frustrated, unbelievably tired. We’d gone through years of seeing psychiatrists—they dealt with the kids, but didn’t teach us parenting techniques. It wasn’t until I heard James Lehman’s tapes that I had exact words to say in situations we face on a daily basis. We’ve only had the tapes for about three weeks, but already my husband and I are feeling better and the kids are starting to respond.* All this time, we kept looking at ourselves as really bad parents, but we weren’t. We just weren’t trained for dealing with challenging children. The program is so fundamentally common sense, easy to use, and easy to fit into a crazy, stressed lifestyle. It has had a profound impact in a short period of time and is the best money I’ve spent in seven years in dealing with my kids.Deborah K.
*Individual results will vary.
No Screaming. No Arguing. No Frustration
An uncontrollable, rebellious teenager can turn your home into a war zone where there is no peace. The Total Transformation teaches you how to restore the peace and sanity in your home and stop the screaming and arguing.
On day one, you'll learn a whole new way to get your child to cooperate, without having to raise your voice. Ever. No more getting sucked into pointless, never-ending arguments with your kid. No more senseless power struggles with a 15-year-old. No more negotiating and pleading to get your child to respond to simple requests. No more feeling powerless and wrung out because nothing you say to your kid gets through. Now, when you talk, your child will listen and respond appropriately.
Get Back in Control of Your Family Now
Who's really in charge at your home? If you're trying to parent an explosive, out-of-control teenager, you know how their behavior affects everyone and everything in your home, from siblings to your relationship with your spouse.
It's time to put you back in control of your home. Getting that control is simpler than you think. The Total Transformation will give you back the respect you deserve and the authority and structure your teen actually needs from you.
Maybe you're thinking, “You don't know my kid.” Maybe you think that nothing can change his behavior. Well, we do know your kid. We’ve worked with many teens just like yours, and we want you to see how this program can transform his behavior and your life as a parent.
That’s Why We're Willing to Give You
the Entire Program for FREE
The Total Transformation Program has helped over 200,000 families and we really want to see what it can do for you too! That’s why, for a limited time, we're willing to give you my program for FREE in exchange for your feedback.
When you order your program, you’ll pay 3 monthly payments of $109 each, plus $19 for shipping and handling ($25 to Canadian destinations). Then, if you complete and return the survey that’s enclosed with your program—within 180 days— you’ll get a full refund of the program price (excluding shipping). You’ll keep the program forever…for FREE.
Have you ever had a therapist or a residential program give you an offer like that? We will, because we know how to turn defiant teens around and we know it can help you turn things around in your home. We want to give you the chance to enjoy being a parent again and rediscover your child.
Don’t lose any more sleep over your teen’s behavior. Don’t spend another day living in fear of the next phone call from school—or worse.
Get in on the FREE Program Offer today and stop the bad behavior…for good.
If you don’t try this program, what will you do to change your child’s behavior? Residential treatment programs such as military/reform schools and boot/wilderness camps can provide short term help, teaching teenagers how to behave in restrictive, artificial environments, but rarely bring about permanent behavior changes once they return home and are faced with real world challenges.
We can tell you from 30 years of experience that behavior doesn’t change for good without an intervention like the one we're giving you here. The Total Transformation Program gives you all the tools you need to manage your teen’s behavior in the real world. And you can use them all for FREE.
Plus…if you sign up for the FREE Program offer now, you’ll also receive a FREE Bonus CD: 10 Ways to Turn Around Your Child’s Attitude in One Minute or Less. So don’t delay! Click here to get in on this FREE Offer now…
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"Before I met James, I was an angry person. I used to get out of control a lot. Almost every day after school, my sister and I would come home and fight and argue. There'd be verbal and physical abuse.
Now, me and my sister, we're like best friends. We talk. We don't fight and argue and call each other names. There's no more physical or verbal abuse. We just get along.
James Lehman has helped me in so many ways, my life is real strong and steady. There's no doubt, I'm on my way.”
Recent Reviews of The Total Transformation Program
Review by : JaneHupp
Your program was invaluable in helping us guide our troubled teenager through her problems. I really wish we had had that information when our older children were growing!
Review by : Been There
Total Transformation cut through five frustrating years of diagnoses, medications, and behavior therapy. Our preteen daughter was diagnosed as bipolar, then ADD, then ODD, given a long list of medicines to try, but we never got a plan of how to actually help her at home. It seemed we only spent time in the psychologist's office discussing how difficult it was, but no plan of action. Total Transformation gave us action items, a plan, and support. We implemented consequences, discovered her real issue is with problem-solving, and we learned it is OK to abort a fight with our daughter! The change is slow but sure, and we no longer feel anxious about how to handle her outbursts and tantrums. Highly recommend this program to any parent who is feeling hopeless about their child's behavior!
Review by : Tracy Y.
The Total Transformation Program is simple, powerful and effective. We have been using it for 4 months and are delighted with the results. I hesitated at first, finally just did it and have been smiling since.
"The results from using The Total Transformation were almost immediate. Our home life has changed dramatically because of The Total Transformation.
Our counseling bills were—we were paying $75 a session and we were going once a week for about two and a half years. If you do the math, by comparison, The Total Transformation is a dramatic bargain."
"Before using the Total Transformation program, there was no communication. The only communication was yelling and screaming and unkind words. After implementing the Total Transformation program, we can actually talk.
I think she’s hearing me a lot more now. Whereas before she was tuning me out. And I think that she’s able to hear me more because I’m screaming less.
And what was also a relief is that he wasn’t talking me down and saying you’re a bad mom because you’re screaming. You didn’t get any of that. It was none of that. He was just saying you know what it’s not effective, it’s not working. Let me give you something that’s going to work for you. And that was what was so phenomenal for me.”
"I got the package. And I think within 30 seconds of the opening, I said to myself this is one of the best investments I've ever made. The Total Transformation is result-oriented. No discussion. No lecturing. No explanation. Focus on the behavior. And it worked! That's what made me a believer. There was more value in the couple of hours of tapes that I bought from The Total Transformation, frankly, than ten thousand dollars worth of counseling or shrinks. If someone were to ask me what was the single adjective or the single description that would encapsulate my reward from working with The Total Transformation, I would say there's lots more peace in the house. And that is priceless."